This quote popped up on FB the other day. I love it & it resonates a lot with a challenge I’ve been facing of late. A challenge I am hoping to close the loop on for good.
There is a difference, a huge one, between intentionally hurting somebodies feelings & speaking your truth from pure intent, which is then interpreted differently. In others words the other person gets the hump with you.
I’m finding the deeper I get into remembering where I came from & why I’m here this lifetime (My Soul contract) the more I am being misinterpreted. I know my words are coming from my heart driven by my Soul. It shows me I am progressing & doing everything just right in my life that I feel comfortable speaking my truth. However this usually involves saying things others may see as weird or they miss the point & get offended.
That is just fine. I can recognise now when my words are not understood that the recipient is not ready to hear them or their frequency is tuned to a different station. I’m not saying I’m better than those around me or more awake. I’m saying I fully recognise we are all on different stages of our journey.
When someone gets hurt by my actions I do feel hurt too, especially when I didn’t mean to bring pain. I am however not responsible for others reactions to my actions & vice versa. This is where Doreen’s quote comes in handy.
At the core of who we are, the Soul, we are one. The Soul, the part of us that goes home after we leave our physical body, only knows purity & perfection. When we are in our physical human form we are split in duality between our Soul & human emotions in our head. (Some call this the ego) It is our head that tries to mentally process what goes on around us & emotions kick in.
Our Soul cannot get hurt or offended. If you ever hear someone say ‘you’ve offended my Soul’ this I believe is untrue. You’ve offended their ego. Soul only knows love. It is pure & all knowing. In stillness it will tell you all you need to know honestly & openly. You must quite the mind first in order to hear it.
If my ego gets hurt for what ever reason or others get offended/hurt by something I’ve said I must remember to send them love. It happened just last week. I had caused offense by something I wrote right here on my blog. There was no confrontation or conversation had, I was totally clueless as to why a certain person was suddenly being off with me. Once I figured out the issue I was sorry the person involved had taken my words the wrong way. I never meant to offend or hurt anyone. It was my personal take on a situation & I am the only one responsible for my reaction, which was to write about it.
The offended person came into my radar in a professional situation. All I could do was send them love & compassion. I had a job to do & I could not let ‘personal crap’ get in the way. They were hating on me it was clear (cold shoulder, scowling & snappy words) but I must never hate back, even if my ego was bruised by this, my Soul was telling me it was okay. They are hurting & they need love, it was my job to send it out. Hopefully once the other person is ready to sink into their heart, feel the love, see the pure intention & step back they will ease their own pain.
Just remember at our core there is only love & oneness. Nothing can hurt you deep in the centre. It hurts on the surface but its only skin deep. The more love we give the more will come back around. We are LOVE.
In love, K xx
Last week was one of those weeks that felt I was constantly trying to shut my monkey mind off. I can recognise now when this starts to happen & why. Then I can get it back under control quicker. It’s usually when I’m really busy work wise & I’m not getting enough personal down time. It’s a clear message that I need to slow back down & step away from anything that isn’t 100% urgent.
I’d had a pretty big week previously spending a lot of time in the hot room teaching triple yoga classes. This in itself can take its toll on all levels. My desk related work was keeping me super busy too in between classes. My mind was constantly making lists & planning. I’d crack on with a project whilst thinking about the next one on the list. There was a lot going on.
The monkey mind kicked in one morning after teaching a double yoga class. I was excited for a new 12pm class that was starting that day. It was the perfect opportunity for me to teach & practice all in one hit. ‘Do it’ my mind was telling me, ‘it makes sense, you’re here stay for class.’ I should have not listened as my practice class turned into a disaster.
I’d been at a business seminar the night before that ended pretty late to say I needed to be up at 4am. That mixed in with an erratic cat trying to sleep on my head meant I probably only had four hours sleep of which wasn’t good quality. Teaching went fine, I can snap into business mode pretty quickly. My once a fortnight coffee between classes seemed a logical move too. It wasn’t. The coffee came back to haunt me in my practice as did the lack of sleep & water.
My head had been telling me to get in the room to practice. I was so up for it I was ignoring the fatigue that was creeping in & my churning stomach from the far too milky coffee (Time to go black or not at all). I’d already sweated it out for three hours & was not hydrated enough at all. I was probably not on top of last weeks hydration either. I brought a whole new meaning to ‘one hot mess.’
The monkey in my head that told me it was a great idea to get my practice in then turned on me. It started yelling at me to ‘get out of the room, go throw up, lie down & fall asleep.’ It took every ounce of self-discipline not to give in to it. The last 15 minutes of class I spent perfecting my Savasana. It’s all I could do to lie in stillness & focus on calming my mind. Checking out of my head & into my heart space. It was very humbling indeed.
The next day I had a yoga hangover & spent the day hydrating like a mad person. It had taken a lot out of my physically & cemented how important it is to step back to observe a situation from all angles. (And stay hydrated!!) My mind may be telling me one thing but my heart has the real answer for me. I never gave my heart the chance to talk to me as the monkey was so dominant.
Monkey mind came back later that day. I was still feeling a bit knackered & had booked an Xtend Barre class after teaching. During the silent parts of the class the monkey was back! Telling me not to go to Barre & go home to rest. It nearly had me especially after my poor effort the day before at yoga. ‘Maybe I should rest, I over did it yesterday & look what happened’ I started talking myself out of it. I even received a ‘get out of jail free card’ when student after class took so long in the shower it was past closing time by the time they left. If I were to go to the Barre I would be cutting it very fine.
No I would not give into the mind this time. Stepping away from my mind I switched over to my heart (Stillness, deep breaths, eyes closed, inward focus). My heart told me I’d benefit from stretching out & I’d have fun at Barre. With a mad dash I made it. Last one to the Barre but at least they hadn’t started. (I even got my favourite spot!)
I did have a great class. My mind was trying talking me out of a happiness opportunity. The class was just what I needed to shake me out of the ‘feeling sorry for myself’ mode I was obviously in. Being surrounded by happy people with a common goal of having some fun whilst getting fit was just what I needed. The instructors’ cheerfulness was contagious & I could hear my Soul saying ‘I told you you’d have fun.’ If only I’d checked in the day before at yoga I’d probably be told to go home & hydrate or else I’d get sick.
Have you had times when you’ve let your monkey mind take over & block out what your heart if trying to say to only find out the hard way? Please feel free to share in the comments below.
Love K xx
If you’ve read any sort of metaphysical text you will have come across the word ‘manifest.’ Manifest means to ‘reveal’ or ‘to be evidence of.’ Manifesting is a way of making things happen in the physical world by holding the intention of it becoming real from within i.e. in the invisible world. Our physical worlds are the creation of pulling our ‘inner’ thoughts through to make them reality.
Originally this post was going in a different direction with an already structured layout. However the universe had different plans. It’s a big subject to cover & I feel two shorter pieces will be more appropriate now.
This past year I have really started to understand the power of manifesting. One of my favourite ‘manifesting tools’ is one I learned from Doreen Virtues book ‘The Lightworkers Way.’ Doreen firmly believes “nothing is truly lost under the eye’s of God*” (*Insert who ever you wish here, I use the Universe.) Once I started using this mantra & truly believing in it the magic started to happen.
That magic is happening right now, literally five minutes ago something amazing happened. When I thought I’d share this mantra a few examples came to mind. I grabbed an old notebook to look up some references I knew I’d written down & to my amazement an oracle card I was gifted fell out. I thought I’d lost this card to the point I thought I’d thrown it away in an old envelope. Yes there was rummaging through rubbish bags to no avail. I so strongly believed in Doreen’s mantra that nothing is truly lost I was a little sad when the card didn’t turn up in the bin bags.
I still held the intention strongly the card was not lost. It would turn up & be returned to me when it was ready. Three months later here it is again & it has been in arms reach on my bookcase all this time! It’s actually the card I wrote about it this post here. I feel I was so attached & had handed over all my power to it I was strangling it’s energy. Therefore it could not serve me properly until I let it go. Now I’ve detached my power & responsibility has been handed back to me. The card is back to assist me.
Magical real life examples happening as I write, love it.
Another example was when my partner lost his crystal pendant one evening in the garden. I’ve mentioned before we live on a farm so our ‘back garden’ isn’t the average size. He was gutted. There was such a vast space to cover to try to find the crystal it was literally a needle in a haystack situation.
I told him the mantra above. I think he was a little skeptical but went with it. Three days later when he was out mowing the grass he kicked something with his toe. It was his pendant, it had been returned to him.
If something does leave you for a while don’t think of your treasure as ‘lost’ keep the vision in your minds eye you still have it close by. See yourself with it, holding it & cherishing it. Then by setting the intention firmly in your mind that you will be reunited simply trust that you will be. What you put out to the universe you will receive back.
Welcome to the world of manifesting.
Sadly it won’t help you win the lotto. Manifesting doesn’t work if it is ego based or not for you higher good. Often our intentions are manifested in ways we may not realise at first, as we are too focused on a specific outcome.
I will say though from my experience the more you trust and work with the universal energy the quicker things do manifest. They are not always good or positive either if you’re not careful. This is powerful stuff, which leads me nicely into part two of this post coming next Tuesday… ‘Manifesting from a negative place.’
Love K xx
Does anyone else have the problem of not knowing what to wear each day? I know it sounds totally ridiculous on the grand scale of things to be worrying about ‘clothes’ but it does cause a dilemma from a metaphysical point of view.
I touched a little on Colour Therapy in this post back in February. Colours can really have an impact on your energy body. Over the first part of this year I really started paying more attention to the colours around me. Especially the colours I wore. I felt I was wearing far too much black. Black is great but not all the time, it was starting to bring me down. Since I’ve introduced an array of coloured clothing into my life I’ve noticed how colours can alter my mood.
Having certain colours close assists me in communication; concentration, relaxation or a well needed energy boost. That is why I feel it is important to pay attention to the colour of the clothes I’m wearing. Hello wardrobe dilemma.
I used to pick a Colour Therapy card each morning & either carry it with me or wear something of that particular colour. Now I’m using my intuition on a daily basis I’m stepping away from the cards & letting my inner guidance lead me.
A couple of Friday’s ago I was feeling tired, a little run down & a touch grumpy. As I stood in front of my wardrobe I could not decide what to wear. My mood was low so I automatically reached for a dark grey/brown top. It’s a great top, even has a highlight of sparkle to it but it still was a muted, dull colour. Just like my emotions.
My inner knowing kicked in & I got that familiar ‘pulling’ feeling signaling me to pay attention & tune in. I pushed the door back further & there was my answer. A bright pink magenta thick hooded sweater I wear over layers. I’d forgotten all about this top as it had gotten lost down the end of the rack.
When I checked my emails the Kumara Centre’s daily meditation was waiting for me. Perfect synchronicity I was already a step ahead.
Choose a colour to wear today that will brighten your day and make you feel good.
– Michelle Hickman.
Magenta is a powerful colour. Just what I needed that day to kick start my waning enthusiasm. Bright magenta is the colour of the Higher Self, divine love & brings great joy. Magenta can help bridge the gap between duality bringing you back to your inner wisdom. Above else it’s cheery!
I got the message I needed some magenta in my day. When everything seemed doom & gloom a gentle nudge of colour reminded me of my path & why I’m here. Step away from the human emotional drama that is created by my head & sink within. Once I did that I remembered all the pleasure, happiness & excitement there is in my life. This was an instant mood lift.
A huge ‘thank you’ went out to the universe for that one. The day turned out great, which I do feel, was all down to brightening my day with a splash of magenta.
Love Seren xx
Something rattled my cage recently & fired up a spark. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion for sure I respect that but when people I care about get attacked for doing something they truly love I jump up to defend them. Especially when I believe what they are doing is helping the world not exploiting it.
It’s always been a hot subject when it comes to paying for spiritual services. Money is a form of energy exchange it is the way our world works, it brings order and meaning to material goods and services in a fair way. The issue I am bringing to attention is some people believe spiritual services should be free. It is a delicate subject but this discussion can be applied to any service provider, not just the spiritual ones.
I read a comment on FB where someone got very upset about an advert for a professional spiritual service. They were ‘sick of it being about money’ and ‘didn’t like those who feed off those in need.’ Neither do I. I am sure there are business services in all fields out there that aren’t above board and do dodgy things that may be seen as ‘praying on the needy.’ This comment was targeted at a service very dear to me that I know to be 100% genuine, authentic and I was more than happy to pay for. The business in question provides ample complimentary advice daily so it did get my back up that it was being attacked.
Okay here is the issue. The answers you seek are inside of you, every single one us has an infinite library of knowledge imprinted in our Soul for us to access. This spiritual knowledge is free. It is up to us to access it out of our own free will. We also have the ability to heal ourselves and even stop ourselves from developing dis-ease in the first place. However because some of us get ourselves in all sorts of fixes and tangles where our heads are so busy we can’t see the wood for the trees we may need extra help. Help from more experienced people to teach us how to tap into our inner information bank.
Metaphysical mentors and healers provide services just as a personal trainer, life coach or therapist does. These services involve time giving & I believe in paying that person for their time. It’s their time and guidance I am paying for to help me access the ‘free’ information from within. This monetary exchange keeps the balance. Would you get an hours training from your PT then not pay them? Water is a basic human essential need yet we all pay our water rates. If we all knew how to access our free spiritual knowledge for ourselves then I wouldn’t even need to be writing this post.
I feel it is truly wonderful that the gifted Earth Angels amongst us can earn an honest living from charging for their services. The work they do is amazing and why should these people have to give it away for free because someone decided ‘spiritual’ shouldn’t be charged for. They would be stuck in Soul destroying jobs that are not their passion just so they can pay the bills. I for one needed some spiritual guidance, I found a professional service I believed in & was happy for a monetary exchange to happen. It feels good to support these wonderful people in making a profession out of their natural talents. Everyone’s got to eat right?!
There are healers & mentors that only work for donations, trades or pro bono. If you do not wish to pay then seek out one of these people who offer just as good service.
This topic resonates even deeper for me. I am at the stage now with my own healing work that I am ready to place monetary value on my services. If I eventually want to give up my office job and earn a living from my holistic work this is a natural progression for me. My dream of owning my own business & managing my own brand is slowly becoming a reality.
For years I gave away my graphic design services for free. With my crippling self-doubt I didn’t feel worthy or good enough to charge people so I just gave it away for free. Deep inside my Soul was crying out for me to step up to the plate and own my worth. I ended up giving so much away it caused me great pain. Now I charge correctly and people are happy to pay me for the service I provide. Those who still want something for nothing do not even approach me now.
I hit the same mental roadblock again when I was given my Reiki Masters blessing to start charging for my healings. She explained to me the extra factors I had to consider when setting my price. Reiki isn’t just a one-hour session. There is preparation & continued development involved behind the scenes that clients don’t see. I work from home yes but I pay rent and bills for that space this also needed to be considered. I did feel awkward setting a price as the people who let me practice on them when I was learning were now the people whom I would charge.
Following the advice I was given I set my prices after deeply meditating for the answer. The answer came. I set my price and told my clients. I owned my decision. No one questioned and some were even ecstatic that I was taking payments. They’d actually been hanging out to pay me in money rather than bring gifts.
Paying for spiritual services isn’t for everyone. For me I am in support from both sides of the table. Professionals in the spiritual industry have just as much right to earn a living from their gifts as everyone else. They assist people in becoming the best they can be from a place of pure intent & unconditional love. I invite you to support them if you can or wish.
Love Seren xx