Hello there! I’ve been dropping some hints over the past few weeks to a grand ‘big reveal.’ Today is the day. My apologies go out to those who know me personally for not getting told this news sooner or personally.
What I’m about to share is a huge move for me, probably one of the biggest decisions I’ve made thus far. Believe me I wanted to shout it from the rooftops the moment I decided. Somewhere inside, after everything I’ve learned I just wanted to keep it to myself, let it be sacred, special, unique, my own. I needed to let the idea sit first to make sure I was comfortable with my choice. If I shared too soon chances are I would certainly meet some resistance that may sway me to change my mind.
I love an analogy I heard recently about comparing my situation to a brick wall. You build the wall with bricks and mortar. Before the wall is solid and strong you have to wait a while. Allow the mortar to dry & the bricks to settle into position before it is stable & supportive. This is just what I did. I am settled, strong and standing firm.
Oh okay already what is my news? I quit my day job. After working nearly four years at the same place I walked out of the door on Friday no longer an employee. It was emotional, I am so grateful for the past few years & a role I’ve learned so much in. It was super hard walking away from a team I truly love & who feel like family. It’s a heck of a lot easier to leave somewhere you don’t like!
Why did I leave if I liked it so much? I needed to create the life I love. Doing what I love everyday and making a living from it. That was my brief fifteen months ago when I started down my spiritual path. Now that dream has manifested into the opportunity I have now.
What am I going to do then? Basically I’m going to be pretty much doing what I have been doing for the past two years apart from I will be in control. I am now officially my own boss, as of yesterday, day one. I will be teaching yoga on a full time roster, seeing more healing clients and freelance designing from my home office. Of course I’ll be blogging. All this will be done under my trading name Seren Holistic Lifestyles. Growing the Seren brand will be a big exciting project in itself. I even have a business coach to help guide me along the slightly scary path of ‘business owner.’ I shall master Excel spreadsheets.
How did I come to make such a massive life overhaul? For many months I was trying to create space so I could see more healing clients, doing the work my Soul loves to do. I kept asking my inner guidance for the answer. All I got was ‘wait’ or firm ‘no’s’ when I suggested something ‘I thought’ I should give up to make room.
You see I was trying to control the situation & not hand over to the powers that know best. When you surrender to the universe you have to trust the answer will present in due course. Most of the time it’s not what you thought it would be. I asked for space to create a life I would love to live. At first I thought it meant dropping off a yoga class a week. Then I wouldn’t be so tired in my day job & I’d have more energy on weekends for clients. That wasn’t the answer. Teaching is a huge part of why I’m here and the perfect complimentary modality to my energy practice. Finally I did what I was told and ‘waited.’ Sat back, was patient and then the answer came through.
It seems so obvious now that the 9 to 5 city job had to go. I’d not been happy with the lack of creative work for a while. Sitting it out waiting on other people to bring in the clients and some decent work. What I should have been doing & what I am doing now is attracting clients I wish to work for from industries aligned with who I am. The messages were calling out from the start I just wasn’t connecting with them.
Why wasn’t I receiving the messages? Fear was holding me back. My city job was secure, a regular wage every week and paid holidays. Why would I give that up to be self-employed with a bucket load of risks? It is time to get uncomfortable. Change is needed. The fear and risks of self-employment shall empower me to get things done, work hard and achieve my goals. I need this. I also reminded myself I travelled the world for a whole year living off my savings & not getting paid. Since then I’ve taken many unpaid leaves & never hit any problems. I had just forgotten. I’ve done it before I can do it again.
Once the penny dropped I could very much hear the celestial choir singing out. Oh how obvious it is now. Work for myself, set my own goals, have the freedom to do as I wish on my terms. Have 100% responsibility for my own life.
I am happy. I am well supported. I’m stepping up to the greatest adventure yet and I’m ready for it.
There you go! I’m sure I’ll still be as busy as ever if not more but I’m now officially living a life I love.
Who’s gonna join me?
Love K xx
I’m so excited to introduce our guest blogger today. Lisa aka The Wellness Coach is truly an inspirational young women who’s daily struggle with an auto immune dis-ease hasn’t stopped her reaching for the stars.
I first met Lisa through Bikram Yoga & was so honoured to have her take part the first ever class I taught as a rookie teacher. Since moving back to her native Ireland Lisa has started her own holistic nutrition coaching business. Using her own life experience of healing through whole foods & a holistic lifestyle to advise others on how to transform their life for the better.
Here’s Lisa’s amazing story…
I have several memories of how I felt back when I was 14 years old and all of a sudden my life became a daily routine of medication, injections, doctors, tiredness, and pain. Sitting in my bedroom with a psych doctor asking how I was, struggling to get down the stairs and clinging onto the banister for the fear of the pain that would shoot through me, missing school and being home tutored, over hearing the home tutor insist I repeat a year at school, I refused. Being stared at. Needing help to carry my bag. Being felt sorry for. The worst feeling to sum it all up was a complete loss of control; I was removed from my happy normal life and taken to this alien existence.
It began in the summer of 1997, my knees ballooned up, it was hilarious at first, “look at my knees, they’re like footballs!” By November 1997 it was time to see a private consultant, Leukaemia or Rheumatoid Arthritis (RA) he suggested, thankfully it was RA and so ensued an intense bout of attack via medication. It was December, I was in a hospital miles from home and the Christmas tree was twinkling in the ward. I was very upset, very lonely, very confused and very sick. My friends had moved on, they had little time for me being teenagers, completely understandable. My mummy became my best friend. Every day was a struggle, no one really understands it, the pain, the fatigue, but worse still the side effects of the medication they pump into you to deal with this attack on your immune system by your own body. If I was diagnosed now, 16 years later, a lot of the damage that had been done would’ve been avoided as medication advances and progresses over time. C’est la vie. In this life you learn to deal with the hand that’s been dealt to you…or you crumble and accept defeat. I’m a fighter, so I fought.
Rheumatoid Arthritis it was, not a day would go by without it being mentioned at least 10 times to me, this new word, this new world, was now my new best friend and ironically I did actually meet some real nice friends as a result of my summers spent in Musgrave Hospital kids ward. My doctors were, and still are amazing, they make a 14 year old kid feel like they’ve climbed and conquered Everest with each and every injection given.
I went to school, I worked hard, I took each day an hour at a time. I did well. I passed exams and did a lot better than anyone expected. On the outside people would tell me, and still do, ‘You got better’. I didn’t. I chose health and fought for it every day, I still do but now it’s much more enjoyable as I high five feeling great! They say, whoever ‘they’ are, that you don’t appreciate your health until it’s taken from you, very true, and it’s the main reason I’m trying to help others, don’t let your health be taken, you have a choice!
Around my university days I began my journey towards alternative health and that’s when it all changed. I began to know my own body better than any doctor with 50 years experience under their belt. They say you need empathy to understand other people, I have walked the walk, I know what it feels like. Over the next 10-12 years I experimented with my health.
I did the impossible; I was beginning to enjoy proving people and doctors wrong, I loved meeting people and letting them discover that yes, I have a severe form of rheumatoid arthritis, an auto immune disease, bet you never knew! I walk with a limp I know I do, I will never be able to straighten my elbows, I have poor mobility in my wrists, my back will never be self tanned due to restricted shoulders and I bet I have worse hips than your granny, hee hee!! I have good days and bad, the bad account for a lot less now than they used to. Though the bad most people never see. I’ve been to university, I’ve studied for 8 years since then, I’ve been to Australia medication hassle and change of doctors and all, I am living proof that with inner strength and an open mind to alternative living, all is not lost.
My saviour has been nutrition, hence the reason I went on to study it and became a nutritionist. Foods heal, foods harm. We live in a society whereby disease, particularly inflammatory diseases or those ending in ‘itis’ are becoming more and more prevalent, obesity levels are through the roof and a lot of people just don’t know what to eat! I eat for health, I eat to beat inflammation, I eat for strength, for healthy joints and for energy. I see each and every meal as an opportunity to regain control of my health and I’m not letting those sip by! I’m now in the very privileged position of being able to help others recover their health, reigniting their passion for healthy foods and re-discovering their taste buds, I’m inspiring and motivating others, I’m using this challenge I faced as an opportunity.
Things happen for a reason and I believe the powers that be knew I had the strength to fight this disease and to inspire others, so I’m doing it. I’ve managed to come off some severe medication through diet and lifestyle, I still take daily meds, and inject myself every 5 days, I probably always will, however this was medication I ‘should’ still be on according to the experts, is medication that is also given to cancer patients. My hair has never been so long since I stopped it, I’m delighted 🙂
On my journey I also found a great outlet through exercise. On a recent visit to my specialist I asked “So my knee is giving me jip, anything I can do to help it?’, “Exercise it” she told me, “Oh like squats and lunges?” I ask, “Goodness no, while sitting on the chair at home straighten and drop your leg, definitely no squats”. I joined Crossfit a month later and am Queen squatter 🙂 I also practice yoga 3 times a week.
I discovered yoga whilst in Australia. Doctors treat the physical; however, good nutrition and yoga heal both the mental and the physical. I began to see my body as a whole, to approach it holistically. The breathing, the stretching, the discipline, they gave me back control, control I had once lost and I thought, I can do this, I can work with my body instead of fighting against it! Yoga heals in so many ways, it is so much more than a workout, it reduces inflammation, promotes healthy sleep, reduces stress and stretches out my very stiff joints. They say arthritis can be linked to an inability to let go, I don’t like this thought process as it almost blames the person themselves for having the condition, however I do know that on days where I practice yoga, find my inner peace and learn to let go, I feel better. I sleep better. My joints are less inflamed and life is easier. I’m also an Aries though, I like action, moving forward trying new things, there are more and more people to inspire, and I’m delighted to be helping just one person all the way over in Australia who may read this and feel empowered! Why stop when you can achieve so much more? My arthritis has never stopped me doing anything and never will!
I hope my story has inspired you, try the alternatives, use every meal and each opportunity life throws at you to make healthy choices, you really don’t appreciate your good health until it is taken from you.
As they say in yoga, Namaste. Lisa x
If you are interested in Wellness Coaching check out Lisa’s links below:
Those of you that follow this blog regularly will have heard me mention my Soul Mentor Elizabeth Peru. Why do I need or use a Soul Mentor you may well ask. About twelve months ago I was in a bit of a fix with the direction my life was going. I was working two jobs that combined involved working very long days, often rising at 4am some days then not getting home till 10pm on others. All this whilst trying to fit in other activities, running a home & being in a committed relationship. I was knackered!
The simple solution would be to cut back on something, work fewer hours or teach less yoga. The problem is I loved everything I was doing I was just not balancing them equally. Growing up I was always being told ‘you can’t do everything.’ Why not I would think, I can do everything just you watch me. This stemmed my desire to do everything I wanted and do it well. That was my stubborn, ego head leading the way. I needed assistance to get that under control & find balance in my life. A friend recommended me to Elizabeth’s services and it all rolled on from there to the point I am at right now.
In July last year I enrolled after a pre-intake Skype meeting in The Advanced Mentoring Program the first part of the Merit Mastery Program. On the program I worked one on one with Elizabeth to bring some balance & order back into my life. The key focus of the Advanced Mentoring is to really get to know your self on a Soul level. In order to do this you need to get your personality/head under control and working as a team with you heart/Soul.
Over the 12-week program of nine personal one-hour sessions and video classes you really get to grips with finding out who you really are. You will uncover where your natural talents lie, how to use them & bring a huge awareness into your every day life.
It’s not easy. Elizabeth will not hand you all the answers on a plate. If you want results you have to work hard. It is a process but a truly rewarding one & you are fully supported on your journey by Elizabeth. Any questions I had or challenges I didn’t understand were explained clearly to me in a straight forward no nonsense manner.
Through the lessons I learned on Advanced Mentoring & now Master Mentoring I’ve brought balance, peace and love into my busy life. I am flowing smoothly through life with my Soul as my one true guide whom I trust without question. I now over come challenges with ease and grace. I’m living in the present moment and trusting everything is happening for the right reason. I’m living authentically and using my natural given talents every day from which I am reaping all sorts of rewards. I could not recommend Elizabeth’s work for those ready to take the next step to finding their spiritual truth.
If you are ready to take the next step in your life, find out who you really are & make a change for the better this program may well be for you. The good news is the final program for 2013 is starting on July 29. It is offered globally to anyone over eighteen years old. Please be prepared to commit fully to the twelve-week program both personally & financially. It is a commitment but you will know if it resonates with you enough to take part. Be aware it is a professional service so it does come at a cost. For the full program outline & video link please click here. For further information & current pricing please email Elizabeth directly at: firstname.lastname@example.org
If you’re not ready for such an in depth course of study Elizabeth offers other services too check out this page. There are also daily complimentary Soul guidance posts on Elizabeth’s Facebook page & Twitter.
Love Seren xx
This post has nothing to do with brooding teenagers and their undead pointy-toothed ‘vegetarian’ lovers. No blood will be sucked either, just energy!
I started using the term “Energy Vampire” after it came into my awareness that some people I know literally suck the life out of me. Bleed me dry of energy. They leave me feeling exhausted, depleted and hung over even though no alcohol had been consumed. I’d wake up the morning after feeling like I’d been run over by a truck. Ever had that feeling after a meet up with certain friends? I’m sure we all have them in our circle.
Please don’t get me wrong I use the term Energy Vampire with the kindest of endearment. My energy hungry friends are lovely that is why they are my friends. It is natural for me to attract people who need rescuing. I like rescuing people and looking after them. Get them out of the holes there’re in and back on track. It’s part of who I am. I’m here to help, to heal & to give. I am happy too but now on my terms.
On my current path of cleaner living I’ve found my intuition has been enhanced, my non-physical senses are sharper and my light is brighter. Before I became aware of this amazing knock on effect I’d created I’d get sucked into other people’s chaos and in turn come away just as depleted as them. My Energy Vampires always have something wrong with them, you might have a cold but this friend has flu, a sore throat and pneumonia! Get the idea? There’s always a drama going on bigger & better than anyone else’s. That’s cool, that’s life. They need to down load, get advise and reassurance that everything will be ok. They want to talk, a lot, without coming up for air or letting anyone else have a breath. My mistake used to be I’d give them that reassurance & support by personalizing. That’s how my energy was lost.
We’ve all done it. If someone is telling a story and looking for some advice the easiest thing to do is say ‘yes me too, that happened to me!’ Instantly you feel like you’re supporting them as you’ve been through the same thing. You feel you can give honest advice because you have felt their pain yourself. There it is. The moment you personalize you do feel their pain, you take it right off them and into you. That’s why you feel so hungover the next day as you are now carrying that friends pain yourself.
Energy transfers happen that easily. As soon as you say ‘me too’ an invisible cord (an etheric cord) with a big fat fishing hook on the end shoots out of your friend and attaches right inside of you. Hooks in. Just like an electric cable this cord allows your friend to suck your precious energy from you, filling up their tank with you kind, loving and happy energy. It’s a two way street of course, when we give we also receive. In this situation the giver gets a bum deal as you receive back their pain and misery. These cords stay attached too, they can tap in at anytime even when you’re not together, especially when they are thinking about you and vise versa.
How do you stop these cords from getting attached & your energy sucked? Simple. Listen and do not personlise. You can give a lot of support without even saying a word by listening. If they ask you ‘what do you think?’ turn it back around to them, ‘what do you think you should do?’ Get them to try and figure it out for themselves. Yes they have come to you for advice the best advice you can give is to get them to figure it out for themselves. They will feel so liberated knowing they had the power to sort themselves out rather than just be told what to do by you. We are all different anyway, what you might work for you might not work some someone else. We all have this power of knowing inside of us we just need to access it & trust it. It’s so easy to be influenced by other people’s thoughts and actions. This is not being authentic to our true selves.
Really start to notice how you feel when you stop personalizing. Do you feel lighter? Less oppressed? It takes practice; it is hard I fall off the wagon too from time to time. The words ‘me too’ fly out too very at times. It doesn’t have to. If you are listening, being still within yourself it becomes easy to stay neutral. No cords will attach, no social hangovers will occur. If you feel a cord has attached, cut it. Imagine a big pair of scissors and snip it away. Send it into the universe to be taken care of.
Give it a go this week. You will be a much stronger, supportive friend and keep hold of your precious energy. Lead from your heart and send out loving, supporting thoughts to your friends and everyone will reap the rewards.
Love & light,